It was accidently I saw the title of the book in an online book shop. I thought it is not a bad idea specially I am single now. I do not normally pursue to read dating books. I mean Christian dating books ( if there is more). Anyway , I went by myself to bookshop, bought ” not yet married ” book by Marshal Segal with two other books(review will come soon ) too.
I am going to leave an honest review without any foggy things. Before that , I need to tell you that this book is for Christian singles , but you can read it if your a non-believer but I think after reading two pages you are not going to continue with it. Marshal is a young guy who has not himself is not a single guy any more. He was. Some people are sensitive about this , how come a married guy telling me what is look like a single life? But it is not about that. He talks about his past life. He was not a virgin before finding the right one and he confessed a few last chapter of the book. His current wife name is Faye . Marshal does not talk about her much , but it seemed he received the forgiveness from her right 15 months of their friendship , right before getting married. Faye forgave her. Marshal does not talk about her past sexual life that much. He said I broke the promise and I was living in sin. The two main things he leaves us as he experiences is first seek clarity before intimacy. The main character of the bible he uses a lot is our apostle Paul. There is nothing any specific or different you can find in the book. There is a lot of bible verses which surprisingly repeated chapter after chapter.
Obviously. The book is not professional written- and do not expect to be a book like Tim Keller. And with all respect and love I can say this book is not recommended for the single above 25. It looks like is not mature enough about a relationship explanation. Instead , this book is a confession, advice and a past experience which is really good for those age between 19 to 24 age. Simple written – He beautifully talks about first pursue the love of God before anything else> I admire Marshal how bravely ( shortly ) talked about her past experience. But in my understanding there is a narrow line between definition of ” not yet married ” and ” singleness “. It seems Marshal invite you to have more dating but some boundaries are advised to be there , like clarity before intimacy. If the girl( or boy) is not your style do not pursue anymore. There are a few great phrases in the book which I loved it. Some advises are really useful as I can say as a single guy – there are good like hang out with married people. ” not yet married ” book is complete Christian book – the book not going to tell you who you choose or who is good for you but purely took the advise from the Bible and interprets it into our everyday language. There are obviously a few great points missing or not emphasising on them. Like Love yourself before loving others. Know who you are – there are no ( or less) talks about identity in Christ. Which I think most single guys are struggling in 21 century. As I said this book written according to his experience not a comprehensive research about single guys in church.
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My rate for this book is 3.4 / 5.
Written By Dariush Youkhaneh